What do you say when your daughter with long blonde hair arrives home one day with a haircut that has left her with a ragged clump on top flanked by bald edges? Oh! by the way, the right side of the clump is blue and the left, orange. It tends to take your breath away a bit.
Or watching the T.V. News, you see your student son being forcibly taken to a police paddy wagon. He’d never shown any interest in fish before so you really wonder at his need for a violent stance at a ‘save the whale’ rally.
There are times when parents must feel like putting a sign up at the front gate that says, “Maturing teenagers – Proceed with caution”.
It seems that through this turbulent period, the best parents can do for their adolescents is to continue to be there for them and to love them, hard though it might seem to be.
The kids will probably act as if they don’t want to know you, but there is no doubt it will pay off in the long run if they are continually reminded of the love you as parents have for them. Unconditional love – it’s when you give totally of yourself for those you love and get precious little in return.
Parents’ efforts with their teens probably won’t prove fatal but we need to persist in loving them through the good and the bad times. When they eventually mature they will realise the value of your unconditional love and understand the significance of your actions.